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I want to be a better explainer. That’s why I write.

My name is Lauren. I began writing regularly over 10 years ago for the sole purpose of becoming a better explainer.

For the past 18 years, I’ve worked predominately with clients who have pain problems. Usually low back pain — simply because it’s so common — as well as neck and shoulder pain. I’m trained in the Alexander Technique, a very old but still mostly unknown technique developed in the Victorian-era that helps people change postural and movement habits that are causing or exacerbating pain or getting in the way of optimal functioning.

I suffered from chronic back, neck, and…

Ask yourself this one important question

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How you do anything is how you do everything” is a quote you may have run into in a self-help article somewhere. I’ve heard it attributed to Zen Buddhism. But the origin seems unclear. Leadership Coach, Carolina Caro, wrote a nice post on Forbes exploring the meaning of this very quote. Basically, it boils down to looking at your habits. And understanding that often a particular habit is not restricted to just one area of your life but tends to show up in many unexpected places, over and over again.

For example, you may first become aware of a habit…

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The first one hitched a ride in on our Christmas tree.

At least that’s our story. It was just too much of a coincidence that the day after my husband and I drug in our freshly cut Fraser fir and set it up in the stand, the bat appeared.

We met in the laundry room.

I switched on the light. Across the room by the window was something black with what I would have sworn at the time — although implausible — was a six-foot wingspan. It flew straight at me. I did the only thing a reasonable person would…

Bending over doesn’t have to be “hard on your back”

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For most of your life you probably never thought much about bending over. You just did it. Yet as you’re getting older you may find yourself avoiding doing certain activities because they involve too much bending and it’s “hard on your back”. I don’t think it has to be.

Imagine going through a single day without ever bending over. What would you be able to do? Not much. This simple movement lowers your body in space usually so you can do something with your hands and arms. Pick the napkin you dropped up off the floor or retrieve your purse…

It’s one place my mind and body can agree

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This past year I’ve seen the same excellent piece of advice shared over and over again across social media. I’ve forwarded it to friends and clients. The advice is not new. And you’ll find various forms of it in many different places.

Even if you’ve never attended an AA meeting you’ve probably heard Reinhold Neibuhr’s Serenity Prayer:

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.

Steven Covey shares his version of this advice in his book The 7 Habits of Highly…

This is hard

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Since the coronavirus pandemic hit last spring, I’ve been leading a group virtually once a week through an Alexander Technique-based self-care practice called Constructive Rest. Until recently I’d forgotten to start with something very important. Last week I remembered and started our practice by simply congratulating them for showing up. For taking the time to take care of themselves.

Even if you agree that “self-care is health care” and “self-care is not selfish” you may still find it challenging to take time for self-care. Self-care practices come in all shapes and sizes. Some can take a few seconds. Others an…

What partner dancing has taught me about healthy relationships

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My husband and I have been together since we met at a ballroom in 2001. Dancing has always been an important part of our relationship. Over the years, learning how to effectively move together across the dance floor has helped us move through and strengthen our 17-year marriage.

I always wanted to ballroom dance. But I didn’t search for opportunities to start dancing until I moved to Minneapolis in my mid-20s and found a great dance program at my health club. Filled with people I would build long-term friendships with, the classes primarily focused on social dance. …

Technology doesn’t have to be a pain in the neck

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You love your smartphone. Mobile technology has tremendous advantages. At the same time, it can literally be a pain in the neck. But it doesn’t have to be.

In recent years, so many people have been experiencing neck, upper back, and shoulder pain from excessive use of smartphones that doctors have given the syndrome a name — text neck. And if you think text neck is just for those over 20, take a look at this CNN report on a 14-year-old who had been diagnosed with the syndrome. …

How a major setback in my 20's changed my life

Me in 2018 in South Dakota. I’ve got my life back.

The story of how I ended up in my current profession started with chronic pain.

In 1989, I was 19 and a freshman at a small liberal arts college in Ohio. One evening, a bunch of friends and I decided to drive up to Cleveland. We didn’t make it. I was in the backseat of the car and we ended up rear-ending a pickup truck that had decided to turn right at the last minute from the left lane.

I remember being shaken up and perhaps a bit sore. But I didn’t have any obvious injuries. And I was not…

Why how you touch matters

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In the Alexander Technique, you’ll learn to focus on things that give you the most bang for your buck — a few interventions that can have a wide-ranging effect. Instead of focusing on micromanaging your body. Which, besides being inefficient is well, impossible.

That’s one reason a strong focus is on paying attention to your head and how it relates to your body. It’s quite important as far as your posture goes. And has impacts all the way down to your feet.

Your hands are another good intervention point. They can be the source of a lot of tension you’re…

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